Stop fooling yourself...
It's possible to accomplish much more than you previously believed. All you need to have is the right amount of Determination!
Define what it is you want, form a plan of action that will lead you there, then do it. Do it. That's the hard part; we know the other 2 parts, they are easy, it's in doing it that we fail.
Let's use exercise as an example, because it's one of the most avoided things. I bet everyone would agree that it's important, and that we could all benefit by more exercise, and we know what to do , where to do it, we have the time for it, we can afford it, because it can be totally FREE, no cost whatsoever. Since we know all that, the main thing is just to DO IT.
It is a natural "law of physics" that a body at rest tends to remain at rest! OK then, let's blame it on that? NO GOOD, it's You who is to blame. You're not determined enough. To be determined is to force yourself to get up from your chair and exercise.
Start like this: I don't feel like it, I'm tired, I didn't sleep much last night, my back aches, I hurt my leg, I have a blister, I don't have time, I really should pay some bills first, I have to go somewhere, it's too cold out there, too windy, it's raining, it's too dark, I just ate, the last time I tried it I hurt myself, I want to wait for....., in a few minutes....., right after I finish this...... etc etc.
Stop it right now! Get changed into workout clothes, put those sneakers on, go to the bathroom, drink enough water, tie those sneakers properly, let's go we are taking a walk to warm up. I am going to do this no matter how much I don't feel like it.
This is just like work, but I am going to do it. Hey, I am walking!
I am still walking, it's been 20 minutes, and it's not as bad as I thought. I'm not even tired, another 10 minutes! I feel like walking a little faster to see how it feels. Wow I walked over a half hour today.
Now it's tomorrow. I was going to go for another walk, but I don't feel like it right now, and I'm a little sore from yesterday, so maybe later...Stop the shit, get ready and get out there!
That is how it works, that's the only way it works, and it will always work. Determination!
If you know me, then you know I am a determined person. In 1996 I had a goal of running 100 miles in a single week. On January first that year I was running about 20 miles a week, so I planned how I would get it to 100 miles in one week. I knew I had to divide my week's goal by 6 to get my average running day, giving myself one day a week off to rest. I was determined to make 100 miles, so I gradually increased each day's average run over a period of 9 months until I finally ran seven 15-mile days in a row, the first week of September, for a total of 105 miles that week.
During that year there were many days that I didn't feel like running at all, because I was working as a salesman and my work schedule was 50 hours a week. The only way I had time for all that running was getting up early, like 5am and getting out of the house by 5:30 no matter what the weather. On the days that I slept late, I ran after work, before I went home, I was determined to get the running in. Most of the time at night I was too tired to stay up late watching TV, but I was determined to run that 100 miles.
Hey, when I made it to 50 miles a week, on my journey to the 100, I needed to average over 8 miles a day for 6 days! Plenty of those days it was hot, windy, slippery, rainy, cold, freezing, icy, uncomfortable, or I just didn't feel like it! But I was determined.
As the weeks went by and I passed through plateaus of mileages 60, 70, 75, 80, 85, 90, I became more and more tired, but I became more and more determined also. During the summer there were 6 different weeks that I ran between 80 and 92 miles each, and I started thinking that the 100 mile goal was out of my reach, after all 7 x 13 is 91 (7days running 13 miles per day was not enough to get to the 100 miles, and even 14 miles a day would only produce 98 miles). I was still determined to get to the 100 miles.
On the 40th week of the year, I decided to run 15 miles a day for 6 days and on the 7th day run only 10 miles, giving myself the magic 100 miles! I was so determined that I forced myself into the 15-mile regimen, so determinedly that on the 7th day I ran 15 miles out of habit, and that's how I did the 105-mile week.
No one could ever convince me that I couldn't do something that I put my mind to, because I am DETERMINED.
Now here is a little secret, I am no different than You, as long as you have determination, and you force yourself to do the tough things, at work, or at play!
John DeFlumeri Jr. in Clearwater
"Decisions About Money and Controversial Commentary"
copyright 2009 John DeFlumeri Jr.